A friend of mine once told me about her failed suicide attempt during her youth. She was in a deep coma and near death. Nonetheless, in her clinical oblivion, she could feel the excruciating pain ravaging through her body and numerous medical procedures performed on her in a frantic attempt to save her life. She could hear the conversation between medical professionals and her family. Eventually, she woke up from her coma but, to this day, still has lingering health issues because of it.
She said that it was the stupidest thing that she’d ever done in her life. Had she succeeded, she would never have had the chance of getting married, becoming a mother and having the wonderful joy of raising her two children whom she adored so much.
If you take your life, you don’t just take one life; you take the lives of your future generation with you.
People who committed suicide were in a state of immense despair; they could not see hope and find the courage to go on. They wanted to end their pain.
At the same time, they might not realize that they were also being selfish. Their actions did not stop their pain. On the contrary, their actions fueled the pain on a grander scale. They left a hollow void and a chasm so vast and deep in the life of those who were left behind. The family and friends will be haunted by guilt and a myriad of questions “Why?” for the rest of their lives. None can feel whole again.
After you are gone, your parents may have another child - assuming that their marriage would survive this horrible and lasting ordeal. The new child may bring them joy and laughter. However, the new experiences, laughter and joy with this new child will never replace the experiences, joy and laughter that they had with you in the past and could have in the future, because you are a unique individual. The time they had and would have continued having with you is also unique, precious, and irreplaceable, and cannot be replicated. The pain and anguish you inflict on your parents and on those who love you, if you take your own life, would be so profound and suffocating that it will not be lessened with time, by anyone or anything. For the rest of their lives, they will be seeking your face, voice and touch among your friends and strangers, on the streets, and in their dream.
A person who has counseled many families who lost loved ones due to suicide has this observation: Many who took their lives believed they were in an inescapable despair. Unbeknown to them, the issue(s) which caused the despair at the time of their demise had either already been resolved or were on their way of getting resolved.
Maybe all the horrible things you have done – the lies you have told, the trust you have broken, the lustful thoughts you had, the despicable acts you have committed, and your failures, etc. – have already been forgiven, but you did not know it. You have immersed yourself in great penitence and sorrow that you fail to see the truth, acknowledge the grace and accept the forgiveness which has already been bestowed upon you.
Why do you continue believing in the lies, self-abasement and self-condemnation? Instead of ending you life at your own set time, I implore you to press on and become a seeker and a herald of the truth.
She said that it was the stupidest thing that she’d ever done in her life. Had she succeeded, she would never have had the chance of getting married, becoming a mother and having the wonderful joy of raising her two children whom she adored so much.
If you take your life, you don’t just take one life; you take the lives of your future generation with you.
People who committed suicide were in a state of immense despair; they could not see hope and find the courage to go on. They wanted to end their pain.
At the same time, they might not realize that they were also being selfish. Their actions did not stop their pain. On the contrary, their actions fueled the pain on a grander scale. They left a hollow void and a chasm so vast and deep in the life of those who were left behind. The family and friends will be haunted by guilt and a myriad of questions “Why?” for the rest of their lives. None can feel whole again.
After you are gone, your parents may have another child - assuming that their marriage would survive this horrible and lasting ordeal. The new child may bring them joy and laughter. However, the new experiences, laughter and joy with this new child will never replace the experiences, joy and laughter that they had with you in the past and could have in the future, because you are a unique individual. The time they had and would have continued having with you is also unique, precious, and irreplaceable, and cannot be replicated. The pain and anguish you inflict on your parents and on those who love you, if you take your own life, would be so profound and suffocating that it will not be lessened with time, by anyone or anything. For the rest of their lives, they will be seeking your face, voice and touch among your friends and strangers, on the streets, and in their dream.
A person who has counseled many families who lost loved ones due to suicide has this observation: Many who took their lives believed they were in an inescapable despair. Unbeknown to them, the issue(s) which caused the despair at the time of their demise had either already been resolved or were on their way of getting resolved.
Maybe all the horrible things you have done – the lies you have told, the trust you have broken, the lustful thoughts you had, the despicable acts you have committed, and your failures, etc. – have already been forgiven, but you did not know it. You have immersed yourself in great penitence and sorrow that you fail to see the truth, acknowledge the grace and accept the forgiveness which has already been bestowed upon you.
Why do you continue believing in the lies, self-abasement and self-condemnation? Instead of ending you life at your own set time, I implore you to press on and become a seeker and a herald of the truth.
